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I don't believe in gender equality – Omotola Ekeinde

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11 years ago

March 2, 2014

When asked in a recent interview with Punch how a woman can
have a successful marriage, actress Omotola said she doesn’t believe
in gender equality and women should understand that men are the
headsof the family. excerpts from the interview –
How can a woman have a successful marriage?
Omotola: I don’t believe in gender equality. I do not believe that
God made man and woman to be equal in any way. I believe
that in every organised institution, there is always a head and an
assistant.
It doesn’t mean that one should take the other for granted, or
disrespect the other. I believe the husband is the head of the home
and the wife is an assistant. My husband is a pilot, I have flown
with him several times and I understood that here is a captain
and a co-pilot. They are both responsible for the passengers’
lives. But when there is a final decision to make, it is up to the
captain to make it. He is more experienced and the one with the
responsibility. But any mature captain will not ignore his co-
pilot because the co-pilot is not a cabin attendant. He is there
for a reason. It just depends on how you understand and play
your roles.
I believe women should understand this. When a woman starts a
struggle for power tussle with him, it tends to cause friction in
the home. The woman should give the man the respect as the
head of the home and also prove herself as a worthy co-pilot.
He needs to see you as a reliable co-pilot. Sometimes, he may
not be the one running the house day-to-day, you are the one to
take decisions but you have to do it in such a manner that he is
comfortable enough to see you as someone he can rely on. When
you have a proud and egocentric husband, hand him over to
God. If you feel like your life is being threatened, or that of
your children, get yourself out of that situation. You owe your
children that. Try separation for a while, but before that, you
must have tried other things. I do not believe that people should
throw in the towel in their marriage at every flimsy excuse.
You must have been a diligent wife and tried prayers and
intervention. If all those fail, then you can remove yourself from
that situation. Also, couples should be friends and communicate.
What we call love sometimes fizzles out. True love comes from
friendship. When you don’t feel those initial sparks, friendship is
what keeps you together, until when the spark comes again..