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“Single and childless” – 28-year-old lady laments over inability to find love and start a family

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12 months ago

December 30, 2023

Mbali, a 28-year-old woman, has resorted to social media to share her feelings and the difficulties she has had finding love and beginning a family..

The young South African woman, who is appreciative of God’s grace, talked candidly about the difficulties she has meeting society’s expectations for marriage and children.

Mbali expressed her thanks for her employment, car, and advancements toward obtaining further education and owning a home despite her worries.

She asked on her X page whether it was bad to want more, which sparked an introspective conversation on expectations from society and one’s own goals.

She mentioned some of her own accomplishments in a follow-up piece.

She wrote, “It breaks my heart that at the age of 28, I’ve got no child & I can barely find love that’s secure, I don’t even think at my big age I know how it feels to be loved however, I’m so grateful for Gods’ favour & pray that he gives me the strength to accept what isn’t meant for me”.

She added, “I’ve got a job, I’ve got a car. I’m 2 board exams away from admission, better pay & property. Is it wrong to just yearn for something else?”

Commenters flocked to voice their opinions in response to the article, which caused tremendous responses. Below are a few responses:

@BbwMaturity said, “There are 21-30 year old women who got kids from deadbeat men, who are regretting opening their legs to such vermin. Be thankful you’re not a statistical evidence. Your time will come. Better time.”

@Mjudana said, “Sorry but at least you know our timings are meant to be different & will never be tampered with, what’s for you will find you at the right time for you, it’s no longer scary to start at mid 30s/40s medical science has advanced, all is well & will be well with patience & faith.”

@Xoli_Ntshangase said, “Don’t feel bad, I will love you ghelli. In fact, I love you my soul mate.”

@Kgolo_ said, “Keep the optimism going, when the time is right He will make it happen.”

View her post below:

It breaks my heart that at the age of 28, I’ve got no child & I can barely find love that’s secure, I don’t even think at my big age I know how it feels to be loved however, I’m so grateful for Gods’ favour & pray that he gives me the strength to accept what isn’t meant for me
— NaMasilela (@IamMbali_M) December 26, 2023